In order to write well, I need to have the ability to be honest with myself without it causing pain. When I'm really sad, honesty hurts, and I find myself not going to interesting places in my work. I guess you can be sad and strong at the same time. Writing requires strength, discipline, and a tolerance for loneliness. The longer I have a partner, the more loneliness I want, because I've lost it. But loneliness is also excruciating unless I'm writing. Yet you can only write so many hours in a day, and it takes a lot of effort to fill the void of not writing.