Part of this book is an homage to the way my friends and I live: lives without children, without marriage, lives you rarely see depicted in popular art, unless as a punch line or a tragedy, lives not considered by many to be full, legitimate adulthood. And yet when I was growing up, my parents always had a diversity of friends, some of whom lived different kinds of lives themselves...And they had many friends who had chosen this other path of adulthood, who weren't married, who didn't have children, whose lives didn't resemble their own. So this sort of life never seemed like anything less-than to me. The loneliness of living the life I do comes from the fact that so many people do think it's a lesser existence, a purgatory of true adulthood.
Hanya Yanagihara
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