Henry Cloud quotes

In the end, as a leader, you are always going to get a combination of two things: what you create and what you allow. (Henry Cloud)
Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something's time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings. View quote
Henry Cloud
Dont use all-or-nothing thinking. Take each day as its own day, and dont worry about it if you mess up one day. The most important thing you can do is just get back up on the horse. View quote
Henry Cloud
To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless. View quote
Henry Cloud
A leader's responsibility is to cause a vision and mission to have tangible results in the real world. View quote
Henry Cloud
Who a person is will ultimately determine if their brains, talents, competencies, energy, effort, deal-making abilities, and opportunities will succeed. View quote
Henry Cloud
If you are building a culture where honest expectations are communicated and peer accountability is the norm, then the group will address poor performance and attitudes. View quote
Henry Cloud
The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it. View quote
Henry Cloud
Marriage is not slavery. It is based on a love relationship deeply rooted in freedom. Each partner is free from the other and therefore free to love the other. Where there is control, or perception of control, there is not love. Love only exists where there is freedom. View quote
Henry Cloud
One of the first signs that you're beginning to develop boundaries is a sense of resentment, frustration, or anger at the subtle and not-so-subtle violations in your life. Just as radar signals the approach of a foreign missile, your anger can alert you to boundary violations in your life. View quote
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There is a big difference between hurt and harm. We all hurt sometimes in facing hard truths, but it makes us grow. It can be the source of huge growth. That is not harmful. Harm is when you damage someone. Facing reality is usually not a damaging experience, even though it can hurt. (Henry Cloud)
The sad thing is that many of us come to Christ because we are sinners, and then spend the rest of our lives trying to pretend that we are not! View quote
Henry Cloud
If you continue to blame other people for "making” you feel guilty, they still have power over you, and you are saying that you will only feel good when they stop doing that. You are giving them control over your life. Stop blaming other people. View quote
Henry Cloud
True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree. View quote
Henry Cloud
The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship. View quote
Henry Cloud
It is true that you get what you tolerate. View quote
Henry Cloud
We have our own thoughts, and if we want others to know them, we must tell them. View quote
Henry Cloud
Couples often live out years of falsehood trying to protect and save a relationship, all the while destroying any chance of real relationship. View quote
Henry Cloud
Some goals are not going to fulfill you. Choose goals that you value and care about. View quote
Henry Cloud
Confronting an irresponsible person is not painful to him; only consequences are. View quote
Henry Cloud
Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality. (Henry Cloud)
The physicality of a real relationship - one that encompasses mind, body and soul - ultimately makes it more fulfilling and powerful than any virtual relationship ever could be. View quote
Henry Cloud
When leaders lead in ways that people's brains can follow, good results follow as well. View quote
Henry Cloud
Endings are a part of life, and we are actually wired to execute them. But because of trauma, developmental failures, and other reasons, we shy away from the steps that could open up whole new worlds of development and growth. View quote
Henry Cloud
Values are sometimes worth living and dying for, and are certainly worth dating and breaking up over. View quote
Henry Cloud