Helen Fisher quotes

There were real reasons that you were attracted to somebody originally. The brain doesn't pick willy-nilly. Unless you part ways hating each other for some reason, that mechanism could get triggered again. You can literally fall in love again. (Helen Fisher)
Your sweetheart calls you by another's name. His eyes linger too long on your best friend. He talks with excitement about a girl at work. And the fire catches. Jealousy - that sickening combination of possessiveness, suspicion, rage, and humiliation - can overtake your mind and threaten your very core as you contemplate your rival. View quote
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Any kind of novelty or excitement drives up dopamine in the brain, and dopamine is associated with romantic love. View quote
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Falling in love was not really a choice; it just struck me. View quote
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Men want to think women don't cheat, and women want men to think they don't cheat, and therefore the sexes have been playing a little psychological game with each other. View quote
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Blushing is thought to be linked to increased levels of norepinephrine in the brain, which may be associated with romantic feelings. It signals that we are interested and excited, which is attractive to men. View quote
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When you massage someone, the levels of oxytocin go up in the brain, and oxytocin is one of the chemicals that drives attachment. View quote
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Natural beauty really entices men. They will tell you this time and time again, and studies consistently prove it. View quote
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You don't come home from the office to spend time with another job. Hopefully you come home to someone you can have a good time with. View quote
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There is more and more data indicating that there is a biological basis to your political views. View quote
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Men don't need linguistic talent; they just need courage and words. (Helen Fisher)
There's biology in everything, even when you're feeling spiritual. View quote
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Barriers tend to intensify romance. It's called the 'Romeo and Juliet effect.' I call it 'frustration attraction.' View quote
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You fall in love with somebody who fits within what I call your 'love map,' an unconscious list of traits that you build in childhood as you grow up. And I also think that you gravitate to certain people, actually, with somewhat complementary brain systems. View quote
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Experiences shape the brain, but the brain shapes the way we view experiences, too. View quote
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Sometimes we fall in love with somebody who will probably never love us, for reasons having nothing to do with us but with their own mindset, their chemistry. View quote
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We're apt to fall in love with those who are mysterious and challenging to us. View quote
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At first I assumed hate was the opposite of love. But it isn't. The opposite of love is indifference. View quote
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Nobody gets out of love alive. You turn into a menace or a pest when you've been rejected. View quote
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Jealousy can even be good for love. One partner may feel secretly flattered when the other is mildly jealous. And catching someone flirting with your beloved can spark the kind of lust and romance that reignites a relationship. View quote
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Psychologists maintain that the dizzy feeling of intense romantic love lasts only about 18 months to-at best-three years. (Helen Fisher)
Why do we feel jealousy? Therapists often regard the demon as a scar of childhood trauma or a symptom of a psychological problem. And it's true that people who feel inadequate, insecure, or overly dependent tend to be more jealous than others. View quote
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Women have a better sense of smell than men do, and it's even sharper in the middle of their menstrual cycle, when estrogen levels peak and women are more likely to be deciding whether a man's attractive. View quote
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Research shows that couples who have a lot of similarities, including intellectual compatibility, end up staying together. View quote
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Mothers really were not built to raise babies not only by themselves, but with only a partner. For millions of years, a woman had much more than just her husband to help rear her young... This whole idea of 'it takes a village to raise a child' is exactly how we're supposed to live. View quote
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