Melody Beattie quotes

I didn't have to scramble up and down the ladder from despair to euphoria anymore, trying to convince myself that life was either painful and terrible or joyous and wonderful. The simple truth was that life was both. p 214. (Melody Beattie)
... the plan will happen in spite of us, not because of us. View quote
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Furthermore, worrying about people and problems doesn't help. It doesn't solve problems, it doesn't help other people, and it doesn't help us. It is wasted energy. View quote
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Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow. View quote
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other people maay be there to help us, teach us, guide us aolng our path, But the lesson to be learned is always ours. View quote
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Codependents are reactionaries. They overreact. They under-react. But rarely do they act. They react to the problems, pains, lives, and behaviors of others. They react to their own problems, pains, and behaviors. View quote
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The lesson I was learning involved the idea that I could feel compassion for people without acting on it. View quote
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... the pain that comes from loving someone who's in trouble can be profound. View quote
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Letting go helps us to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress. View quote
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We decided that sooner or later you had to learn to live without almost everybody, at least for a while. Even people you didn't think you could live without." p 167 love always found itself again. View quote
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Gratitude isn't a tool to manipulate the universe or God. It's a way to acknowledge our faith that everything happens for a reason even if we don't know what that reason is. ~Melody Beattie, 52 Weeks of Conscious Contact, pg. 34. (Melody Beattie)
Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. View quote
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Much of the time, the things we feel guilty about are not our issues. Another person behaves inappropriately or in some way violates our boundaries. We challenge the behavior, and the person gets angry and defensive. Then we feel guilty. View quote
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Each moment in time we have it all, even when we think we don't. View quote
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A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior. View quote
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You don't blast a heart open," she said. "You coax and nurture it open, like the sun does to a rose. View quote
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I used to be afraid of pain, didn't take a lot of risks, especially in love. I'm not as afraid anymore. I'm more spontaneous, more likely to say what I think. View quote
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The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals. View quote
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Live your life fom your heart. Share from your heart. And your story will touch and heal people's souls. View quote
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Guilt can prevent us from setting the boundaries that would be in our best interests, and in other people's best interests. View quote
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We are on a very rich emotional and physical journey on this planet. (Melody Beattie)
Make New Year's goals. Dig within, and discover what you would like to have happen in your life this year. This helps you do your part. It is an affirmation that you're interested in fully living life in the year to come. View quote
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In martial arts, every time you graduate, move to another level, you don't forget everything you've done. You build on it, but it's always there. View quote
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I used to spend so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that my life had no direction. Other people's lives, problems, and wants set the course for my life. Once I realized it was okay for me to think about and identify what I wanted, remarkable things began to take place in my life. View quote
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Today I will stop trying to control my relationships. I will participate at a reasonable level and let the other person do the same. I can let go, knowing that the relationship will find its own life-or not-and that I don't have to do all the work, only my share. View quote
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