Daniel Goleman quotes

If your emotional abilities aren't in hand, if you don't have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can't have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far. (Daniel Goleman)
The emotional brain responds to an event more quickly than the thinking brain.
Daniel Goleman
Empathy and social skills are social intelligence, the interpersonal part of emotional intelligence. That's why they look alike.
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When I say manage emotions, I only mean the really distressing, incapacitating emotions. Feeling emotions is what makes life rich. You need your passions.
Daniel Goleman
I would say that IQ is the strongest predictor of which field you can get into and hold a job in, whether you can be an accountant, lawyer or nurse, for example.
Daniel Goleman
The other thing is that if you rely solely on medication to manage depression or anxiety, for example, you have done nothing to train the mind, so that when you come off the medication, you are just as vulnerable to a relapse as though you had never taken the medication.
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People tend to become more emotionally intelligent as they age and mature.
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I think the smartest thing for people to do to manage very distressing emotions is to take a medication if it helps, but don't do only that. You also need to train your mind.
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Motivation aside, if people get better at these life skills, everyone benefits: The brain doesn't distinguish between being a more empathic manager and a more empathic father.
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Feelings are self-justifying, with a set of perceptions and "proofs" all their own.
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We're exposed and carry in our bodies multiple chemicals, and we have to understand how they interact. Both how they individually interact and the thousands of effects they can produce when they interact with the receptors that run our bodies. (Daniel Goleman)
Well, any effort to maximize your potential and ability is a good thing.
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My hope was that organizations would start including this range of skills in their training programs - in other words, offer an adult education in social and emotional intelligence.
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People who are emotionally adapt - who know and manage their feelings well, and who read and deal effectively with other people's feelings - are at an advantage in any domain in life, whether in romance and intimate relationships or picking up the unspoken rules that govern success in organizational politics.
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people's emotions are rarely put into words, far more often they are expressed through other cues. the key to intuiting another's feelings is in the ability to read nonverbal channels, tone of voice, gesture, facial expression and the like.
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True compassion means not only feeling another's pain but also being moved to help relieve it.
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The amygdala in the emotional center sees and hears everything that occurs to us instantaneously and is the trigger point for the fight or flight response.
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People who are optimistic see a failure as due to something that can be changed so that they can succeed next time around, while pessimists take the blame for the failure, ascribing it to some characteristic they are helpless to change.
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One way to boost our will power and focus is to manage our distractions instead of letting them manage us.
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Emotional intelligence begins to develop in the earliest years. All the small exchanges children have with their parents, teachers, and with each other carry emotional messages.
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There is zero correlation between IQ and emotional empathy... They're controlled by different parts of the brain. (Daniel Goleman)
The more socially intelligent you are, the happier and more robust and more enjoyable your relationships will be.
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Mindful meditation has been discovered to foster the ability to inhibit those very quick emotional impulses.
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Emotions are contagious. We've all known it experientially. You know after you have a really fun coffee with a friend, you feel good. When you have a rude clerk in a store, you walk away feeling bad.
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A prerequisite to empathy is simply paying attention to the person in pain.
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