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The rules of sexism do not free men from the terror of violence; they only keep men from complaining about it. (Warren Farrell)
We can decrease abuse and murder when we get that for both sexes, abuse does not derive from power, but powerlessness. View quote
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He and she become selective at different points; she can be selective when he wants his primary fantasy - sex; he can be selective when she wants her primary fantasy - commitment. View quote
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Every day, almost as many men are killed at work as were killed during the average day in Vietnam. For men, there are, in essence, three male-only drafts: the draft of men to all the wars; the draft of Everyman to unpaid bodyguard; the draft of men to all the hazardous jobs-or ‘death professions. View quote
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In one decade, women had gotten more protection against offensive jokes in the workplace than men had gotten in centuries against being killed in the workplace. View quote
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Men tuned into women but not tuned into their own hurts usually retained the attitude that women needed special protection. View quote
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Men may be way behind in creating choices for themselves, but have actually been quiet supporters of the choices women want for themselves. View quote
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Since no one is always right, always being right is really a role model for his children feeling inadequate. View quote
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No movement calls [migrant workers] oppressed for providing money for women from whom they are receiving neither cooking nor cleaning; for providing their wives with homes while they sleep on the ground. View quote
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For thousands of years, most marriages were in Stage I--survival-focused. After World War II, marriages increasingly flirted with Stage II--a self-fulfillment focus... Love's definition is in a transition. View quote
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A family that knows how to play together has the tools to stay together. (Warren Farrell)
Sexual harassment in the workplace confuses rewards for performance with rewards for attractiveness and sexual availability. View quote
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The Government as Substitute Husband did for women what labor unions still have not accomplished for men. And men pay dues for labor unions; the taxpayer pays the dues for feminism. Feminism and government soon become taxpayer-supported women's unions. View quote
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As long as society tells men to be the salespersons of sex, it is sexist for society to put only men in jail if they sell well. We don't put other salespersons in jail for buying clients drinks and successfully transforming a "no” into a "maybe” into a "yes.” If the client makes a choice to drink too much and the "yes” turns out to be a bad decision, it is the client who gets fired, not the salesperson. View quote
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Women-in-jeopardy movies are, in essence, the updated versions of men dying to save the princess from the dragon to earn her love. They are modern-day training films for teaching women to select the best protectors while weeding out the rest. View quote
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Although a government study found that men's health was much worse than women's health or the health of any minority group, headlines around the country read: ‘Minorities Face Large Health Care Gap.' They did not say: ‘Men Face Large Health Care Gap.' Why? Because we associate the sacrifice of men's lives with the saving of the rest of us, and this association leads us to carry in our unconscious an incentive not to care about men living longer. View quote
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With men, we blame the victim. We blame men because we have camouflaged men's victimization by teaching men to also be the victimizer. Men's victimizer status camouflages men's victim status. View quote
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It is important for a father who feels pushed away to say, in effect, "When you do that, I feel unwanted as a father," or "I feel my rough-housing is not bad parenting; it's my contribution to helping our child take risks." Women cannot hear what men do not say. View quote
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Somehow, women's romance novels are not titled He Stopped When I Said "No”. They are, though, titled Sweet Savage Love, in which the woman rejects the hand of her gentler lover who saves her from the rapist and marries the man who repeatedly and savagely rapes her. It is this "marry the rapist” theme that not only turned Sweet Savage Love into a best-seller but also into one of women's most enduring romance novels. View quote
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I feel awed by the mystery of being both so finite and yet so infinite, so much and so little, so conscious and yet, so coincidental. View quote
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Circumcision in the United States is routinely performed without anesthesia, though anesthesia reduces the infant's stress and prevents infection and blood clots. (Warren Farrell)
I would suggest that just as women who make it in the world of business need male business mentors, perhaps men who make it in the world of emotions will need female emotional mentors. View quote
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Although our grammar schools are teaching a whole generation computer language to adjust to the technological needs of a Stage II society, we have neglected to teach this generation relationship language and conflict resolution skills to address the social and psychological needs of a Stage II society. And when it is taught, in countries like Germany, although called "social competence” it focuses on workplace teamwork -- still on survival, breadwinner oriented work goals. View quote
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Survey 2001: Men who never married, never had a child, worked full time and were college educated earn only 85% of what women with the same criteria earn. View quote
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Men give the same lines to different women for the same reason women wear the same perfume for different men; we all try the things that work. View quote
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