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A man being sued after a woman has more sex than intended is like Lay's being sued after someone has more potato chips than intended. In brief, date rape can be a crime, a misunderstanding, or buyer's remorse. (Warren Farrell)
All of this is men's genetic heritage. However, men's genetic heritage is in conflict with their genetic future. View quote
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If we are to inspire men to father it also helps to stop reflexively condemning men as afraid of commitment and address what they are afraid of. –page246. View quote
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Pay is about the power we forfeit to get the power of pay. For example, we forfeit power when we work for others, not ourselves, but we get the power of the paycheck when we do that. View quote
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Divorce laws have given women economic support after divorce; no laws have given men emotional support after divorce. Men are required to continue their obligations to their exes in the form of alimony or child support; women are not required to continue their obligation to their exes in the form of homemaking or nurturing. View quote
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If a man ignoring a woman's verbal "no” is committing date rape, then a woman who says "no” with her verbal language but "yes” with her body language is committing date fraud. And a woman who continues to be sexual even after she says "no” is committing date lying. View quote
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Many women are discovering that the motherhood instinct implies a responsibility to be certain children have dads -- everyday, not far away; and some are aware that economic independence requires not holding on to her child as if it were her job. View quote
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We had affirmative action programs to help women help themselves economically. Is it now time for affirmative action programs to do for men's feelings what the government did for women's economics? View quote
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In the future, women will increasingly want nurturer-connectors, since part of what he will be nurturing is her ability to protect herself. View quote
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During what years should a child be introduced to better ways of giving and receiving criticisms – to what I call "relationship language”? Before school age. The best teacher? Parents. View quote
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The best-selling magazines to men are Playboy and Penthouse. These represent men's primary fantasy: access to as many beautiful women as desired without risk of rejection. The best-selling magazines to women are Better Homes and Gardens and Family Circle, representing the female primary fantasy: better homes and gardens and a family circle. (Warren Farrell)
The Industrial Revolution, then, took men's occasional absence from home -- previously needed only in wartime and for hunting -- and made it the norm. This increasing division of labor magnified the division of men's and women's interests. It magnified the belief in the maternal instinct and the reality of the distant father. Prior to industrialization, divorces usually led to children living with dads. Not after. View quote
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If the law tries to legislate our "yeses” and "noes” it will produce "the straitjacket generation” – a generation afraid to flirt, fearful of finding its love notes in a court suit. Date rape legislation will force suitors and courting to give way to courts and suing. View quote
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In more than thirty years of conducting workshops, no one has ever said to me, "Warren, I want a divorce – my partner understands me.”. View quote
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A week after you read this chapter, misandry will become apparent in commercials, in films, in everyday conversations. But the bias that is hardest to see is the bias we share. View quote
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I could be a much better role model by sharing more openly with him my shadow side, my faults, my mistakes, asking him to be my teacher rather than being his. View quote
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In order to connect and nurture, it is not just helpful to be in touch with feelings, it is necessary. So men's first job – their next evolutionary strategy – involves being in touch with their feelings. View quote
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Teaching children to debate without teaching children to listen is divorce training. View quote
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When either sex suppresses the expression of feelings, it's almost always b/c they don't feel there is a safe environment to express them. View quote
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ITEM: The Mike Tyson trial. The hotel in which the jury is sequestered goes ablaze. Two firefighters die saving its occupants. The trial of Mike Tyson made us increasingly aware of men-as-rapists. The firefighters' deaths did not make us increasingly aware of men-as-saviors. We were more aware of one man doing harm than of two men saving... View quote
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By the mid-'90s, the anger at men had become so palpable that even sedate publications like The Economist were characterizing women's vs. men's workload as "A woman's work is never done; a man is drunk from sun to sun.”. (Warren Farrell)
After a conflict, women are not only more likely to turn to other womenfriends for support, but are nine times more likely to be with their children should conflict become divorce. View quote
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When I was doing a book tour in Japan for Why Men Are The Way They Are, I was told of an institution called the snack. The snack works like this: A man is coming home from work, and has had a bad day. He doesn't feel that his wife wants to hear about it, so he pays between $50 and $80 for a snack -a sandwich and a drink and an attractive woman who will listen empathetically to him-sort of a beautiful psychologist with refreshments. No men need apply. View quote
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The best way to use these lists to replace anger with love in real life is to nurture each other by doing for your partner what your partner normally does for you. View quote
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Both sexes had an unconscious investment in keeping men from expressing feelings of fear and vulnerability. View quote
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