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Farrell's other eleven defenses are The PMS Defense; The Husband Defense (Warren, I don't quite know how to summarize this one-not sure I get it); The ‘Battered Woman Syndrome' Defense, aka Learned Helplessness; ‘The Depressed Mother' Defense; The ‘Mothers Don't Kill' Defense; The ‘Children Need Their Mother' Defense; The ‘Blame-The-Father, Understand-The-Mother' Defense; The ‘My Child, My Right To Abuse It' Defense; The Plea Bargain Defense; The Svengali Defense; and The Contract Killing Defense. (Warren Farrell)
When a man is attracted to a woman, being expected to take the sexual initiative does not increase his power, it increases his paralysis. The possibility of a lawsuit just intensifies the paralysis. Ironically, the more dangerous the waters, the more [telling dirty jokes] serves as a way of testing the waters: if she laughs, maybe she's interested; if she looks disgusted, maybe she's not. He would feel much more powerful if she took responsibility for testing the waters. View quote
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Notice that much of what men do is also done by single mothers so appreciating what men do also helps us appreciate what single moms do. View quote
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A woman living with her mother has limited freedom; a man living with his mother has limited freedom and limited respect. For most men, the vacuum (of no support system) is so devastating, they'd rather agree with their wife than express their feelings and risk emotional withdrawal. View quote
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The New England Journal of Medicine has recently reported that speaking about one's faults creates abnormalities in the pulsations of our heart. Tiny abnormalities? No. Abnormalities as great as those produced by riding a stationary bicycle to the point of either exhaustion or chest pain. Perhaps [the criticisms men exchange beginning with adolescence], then, contribute to men being four times more likely than women to suffer heart disease before age fifty. In essence, our sons might be practicing heart-disease training. View quote
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Throughout history, men learned that survival, respect and women's love were all achieved by making a killing –whether killing animals, killing enemies, or making a killing on Wall Street. Women received the money that men produced by loving. Men came to feel themselves as unlovable without the money, property or the heroism it took to make them equal to a woman's love. Women came to associate men spending money on them as a statement of how much they were valued-even loved-- by the man. Her ability to love became her source of security: a diamond is a girl's best friend. Essentially this dynamic is true in almost all societies and all classes throughout history. View quote
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A man becomes successful by repressing his feelings, not expressing his feelings. View quote
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We need to fund relationship language in our schools so that future parents will know how to communicate about whether they want children; to communicate with the children they have, and teach their children how to communicate with the world. Technical progress without social skills is a Tower of Babel. View quote
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No legend told its children of beautiful princesses falling in love with conscientious objectors. View quote
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addiction to female beauty and sex. View quote
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If there is one quality that I find is more essential to a successful and happy life than any other, it is empathy. It is at the core of family stability and love. I've never had a couple come to me and say, "I want a divorce; my partner understands me.”. (Warren Farrell)
When we speak of mom winning custody or of dad getting visitation time, we speak of someone winning, someone losing. When we speak of mom or dad spending "parent time” with a child, we speak of two parents, not a parent versus a visitor. View quote
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My first conflict with NOW erupted in the mid-'70s when NOW chapters increasingly rejected father involvement by rejecting shared parent time as the preferred arrangement after divorce. View quote
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Most women's ideal is to not be sexual until nine conditions are met: physical attraction; respect; emotional compatibility; intelligence; singleness; success (or potential ); being asked out; being paid for; and the man risking rejection by initiating the first kiss.... Men want sex as long as only one condition is met-physical attraction. View quote
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The less our sons our trusted, the less women are able to really love them, and the more women feel entitled to use them as wallets. View quote
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When we add the devaluation of male values to the demonizing of male sexuality, many boys feel like a pervert before they know who they are. View quote
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Both sexes work on their lines before they appear onstage. His lines are a lifetime of work; her introductory 'line' is her appearance--or her lack of lines. Just as careers give men power, so beauty gives women power. But just as the comparison between herself and the most beautiful women makes a woman feel powerless, so the comparison between himself and the most successful men makes a man feel powerless. View quote
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The belief that men don't need help is part of the problem. View quote
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The function of gossip is to create an "in group” bond by creating an "out group” enemy. View quote
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We often think that when a man insults another man by calling him a "girl,” the insult reflects a contempt for women. No. It reflects a contempt for any man who is unwilling to make himself strong enough to protect someone as precious as a woman. View quote
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From the male perspective, when commitment is associated with diamonds and mortgages, promises of love can feel like promises of payment. (Warren Farrell)
Men's immediate path from the Insanity Track to the Sanity Track is in demanding that both sexes have the freedom to strike a balance between homeplace and workplace. Men must expect their wives to financially support them to be fathers as much as they now financially support their wives to be mothers. Women must have our approval to marry the warrior of love rather than the warrior of money. View quote
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What's true is that everyone is uncomfortable with expressing anger and being critical. Anger and criticism generates rejection. And everyone hates rejection. View quote
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Look under the "Love and Friendship” section and see dozens of cards designed for women to send to women, most bashing men, and virtually none saying anything loving about men. View quote
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When a government subsidy deprives the child of its dad the government is really subsidizing child abuse. View quote
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