Kate Bornstein quotes

...gender is not sane. It's not sane to call a rainbow black and white. (Kate Bornstein)
I tell people that I've never been hurt by an honest question, and that's true: it's a cruel opinion that hurts, not a question. View quote
Kate Bornstein
They believe (foolishly I think) that the power they have and exert over others is a good thing and they want to hang on to it, they're terrified of losing this stuff. What I'm talking about is what's been called 'male privilege. View quote
Kate Bornstein
There are only people who are fluidly-gendered, and ... the norm is that most of these people continually struggle to maintain the illusion that they are one gender or another. View quote
Kate Bornstein
If we don't show ourselves the same amount of compassion we show others, we'll eventually come to resent the compassion we have for others. I think there's little enough compassion in the world right now, so we need to grow our own to compensate for that. View quote
Kate Bornstein
Standing with freaks never hurt anyone - it's when we agree that we deserve the oppression and the ridicule that accompanies the freak's position in the culture - that's when the wound is mortal. View quote
Kate Bornstein
Any power-over position forwards a culture that oppresses the transgendered. We should look for positions that allow us to bring out the power we have within us, and to acknowledge the power of others. View quote
Kate Bornstein